Something’s Gotta Give – Resistance, Maybe?

Something’s Gotta Give – Resistance, Maybe?
Weight and Wellness Coach

Phone calls and letters asking for money are not unusual. I’m not just talking about my kids! It’s the not-for-profits. This fall I have really been inundated.

It seems everyone wants my money. I want it too.

I have this fear about giving, that once I give they will hound me forever. In some cases, that is exactly what’s happened. And then I’m annoyed, and the last thing I want to do is give more money! I resist.

Cash in an unmarked envelope might solve this problem, but then there’s no tax receipt.Hmmm. So what do I really want? To give, . . . or to keep?

What do you really want?

Clients often say they want to lose weight, but there is often a part of them that would rather not. There are five major themes that can come into play (for any unrealized goal). They sound like this.

I really want to lose weight, but there’s a part of me that feels:

  1. I don’t deserve it.
  2. It’s not safe.
  3. I’m not willing.
  4. It’s not possible for me.
  5. I don’t know who I’d be.


Do you see how these beliefs can get in the way of success? But we usually don’t see them. They’re often buried deep in the subconscious. Cue self-sabotage.

What we want must be aligned with what we believe, or we will struggle.

What to do? Listen for, and address, the fears. Drop the resistance. Drop the weight.

Who am I giving to this year? Santa’s Anonymous! They will neverfind me.